Developing Your Conflict Strategy

Is it the desire to run? Is it a pit in your stomach? Do you feel hot? Cold? What is the sensation you feel in your body when you think about conflict? What's the feeling you get when it is actually happening?

Having a strategy can be the antidote for these terrible feelings. Did you know that you can have goals for approaching conflict the same way you have goals for many other things?

What if you clearly defined why you are willing to engage in the difficult conversation?

What if you had a goal for the result you want to get from the conversation?

What if you were able to decide that the conversation is pointless? How do you make that decision? What are your criteria?

This is one part of what makes being conflict capable so unique. You need more than conflict resolution skills to be successful at approaching conflict with confidence. You need strong guiding beliefs that allow you to thrive and make space in your brain for other things.

Have you ever thought about your conflict strategy?